Sis, Let’s Talk About Being Your BEST ME
Life’s wild, right? It’s full of curveballs, lessons, and moments that make you stop and go, Wait...what just happened? These past few years have been a whole thing—a rollercoaster of self-discovery, navigating relationships, and figuring out how to keep it all together. Along the way, I’ve come up with something that helps keep me grounded: “BEST ME.”
It’s not just a cute phrase—it’s a whole vibe that stands for Boundaries, Emotions, Self-Compassion, Time (Things I Must Earn), Mental Health, and Empathy. Here’s how each piece keeps me going and growing:
BOUNDARIES: Protecting Your Peace
Whew, boundaries were NOT my thing growing up. Saying no felt impossible, and guilt and shame were always waiting for me when I tried. But here’s what I’ve learned: boundaries aren’t about being mean—they’re about self-respect.
What I’m learning: Boundaries mean saying no when you need to, balancing work with rest, and choosing yourself without apology. It’s not always easy, but it’s worth it.
EMOTIONS: Let Them Speak
For years, I thought ignoring my emotions made me strong. Spoiler: it didn’t. Suppressing feelings didn’t make them go away—it just made them louder.
What I’m learning: Emotions are like your GPS—they tell you when something’s off or when you need to take a break. Listen to them, sis.
SELF-COMPASSION: Treat Yourself Like You’d Treat Your Bestie
If there’s one thing I’ve struggled with, it’s self-compassion. Growing up in a tough environment taught me to be my own worst critic. But I’m realizing that being hard on myself isn’t helping anyone.
What I’m learning: Self-compassion means giving myself grace, even when I mess up. It’s about loving myself the way I hype up everyone else.
TIME: (Things I Must Earn)
Life taught me real quick that the future is uncertain. 2020 was the year I learned to appreciate right now.
What I’m learning: Stop waiting for perfect moments to be happy. Find joy in the little things and let the rest come as it may.
MENTAL HEALTH: Therapy is a Flex
Let’s keep it real—mental health is non-negotiable. As someone who’s been on both sides of the couch (client and clinician), I’ll say it loud and proud: Therapy saves lives.
What I’m learning: Seeking help isn’t weakness—it’s strength. Talking it out with someone who gets it can be a game-changer.
EMPATHY: Refill the Tank
2020 drained a lot of us. I felt like my empathy was running on fumes. But I realized that empathy isn’t about excusing bad behavior—it’s about focusing on the people who need love and understanding the most.
What I’m learning: Empathy fuels connection. It helps us turn frustration into action and reminds us to lead with love.
Life isn’t easy—it never has been—but I’ve learned that showing up as your BEST ME doesn’t mean you have it all together. It means you’re trying, learning, and giving yourself grace along the way.
So, what’s one step you can take today toward being your BEST ME? Remember: progress, not perfection. Let’s do this, together. 🌱✨
